It started in college. The feelings of overwhelm, a lot of stress, not knowing if I could handle everything that was being asked of me. There were so many things that were beyond my control. I was driven and passionate about my path(to be a doctor), but didn’t have a clue about how to manage all the emotions and feelings that were coming up. I was taking a full load of classes, working to pay my way through school, and desperately wanting to enjoy the experience of being a college student. I did well in school, loved all that I was studying and learning, and graduated with honors. The downfall was, I was 30 pounds overweight, and had no tools to manage my internal experience. After I graduated from college, I was miserable. I was overweight, uninspired, and often wondered what it was that was keeping me from fully enjoying life. I often put on a happy face, pretending that everything was fine, when inside, I felt lost and lonely. At the core, I didn’t know what to do. Over the years, I got the physical part down. After much trial and error I figured out that exercise would boost my mood, and, along with eating differently, I was able to find my ideal weight, and maintain it. But that wasn’t the end of the story. I wasn’t handling my mental energy or focus, or dealing very well with my emotions.
I decided that going to medical school was not going to help me feel any better. I just didn’t have the internal resources to handle the stress. I knew I wanted to enjoy life, I wanted work that I was passionate about, but not at the price of my physical and mental health. I realized that my energy level, my mood and my confidence really came from the combination of approaching my well-being from a number of different angles. What I do physically makes a huge difference, and it’s always the first place I look at when I’m starting to feel not at my best. Beyond that, how I manage my stress, the way I respond (or react) to my emotions, and my ability, to listen to what my body, my mind, and my spirit is telling me, is crucial.
And really, it doesn’t end. I’ve gone through two pregnancies where I gained 45 pounds. I lost the weight without losing my mind both times. I was so thankful that I had the internal resources, because it was truly challenging. I ran my business from home when the babies were little, and while I was thankful I had that in place, it added challenges and stress, that I was able to tap into my resources to handle. When my son was 1, I knew that I needed to get back to work that I was truly passionate about. I looked at all the studies and training I had done, and realized that the process I had taken myself through over the years, was supported by my all my years of studies. I remember thinking, if I can do this for myself, I can help others do it as well. My big realization was that what worked for me, was not going to be the exact same for anyone else. I could have all the guidelines, but still had to help each person discover for themselves what exact combination of things will work for them. I’ve always loved math, and I realized it’s a bit like finding your own equation, your own unique combination of things, that will support your mental, emotional and physical well-being.
It was a gradual process, but I found my way through the maze, and have come out of it in a place that I could never have believed existed. I am happy, I am fit, and I have energy and confidence – along with two kids, a husband, a dog, and my own business. I no longer get lost in feeling blue, although I of course experience sadness in my life. My life is not stress-free. I still encounter challenges and go through rough patches, just like you. The key difference for me is, most days, I am full of gratitude and engagement in my life. I care for myself in simple ways when the challenges come, and make choices every day that bring me more fully into the person I want to be. When new experiences come up, that push me to a place where I start to feel lost, I have the resources and the capacity to notice what I need, I come through without getting lost.
What is Maui Mind and Body?
I believe that you are capable of achieving the same. I started Maui Mind and Body because I wanted to help women get past those feelings of overwhelm, frustration, and confusion. If you are still reading this, I bet you are a smart, dynamic woman, who just can’t seem to figure out why you can’t get a handle on this. Maybe you feel guilty about doing the things that make you feel good. Maybe you feel like there’s just not enough time to meet the demands of your life and the demands of your body, mind, and spirit. Ask, yourself, ‘am I showing up in my life as the person I want to be?’ If not, it may be time to look deeper into your foundation of how you care for yourself. You may have the belief that, if there was time left, you would do something for yourself, but that time rarely, or never, comes. I have developed a system that has helped many women shift their thinking around self-care. They no longer feel guilty about taking time for themselves, they recognize how critical it is, and how it effects everything and everyone in their life.
Is it time that you finally got a handle on this for yourself?
Kalia Kelmenson is the founder of Maui Mind and Body, LLC
Bachelor’s degree , cum laude, Psychobiology
Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, California
Student Athletic Trainer
Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, California
Personal Trainer, Group Fitness Instructor
Strong Stretched and Centered
Professional Wellness Coach Training
Advanced Coach Training
Certified Wellness Coach - Wellcoaches Corporation
Certified Personal trainer – American College of Sports Medicine(ACSM)
CPR – American Red Cross