When you can’t seem to get to the surface…

You’ve had those days.  The ones where it just all seems so endless…

The laundry, the dishes, the bills, everyone else’s needs, everyone else’s wants…

WAIT! I want to yell, channeling my inner three year old- ‘what about ME?’

I know, I know, I’m the mom, I don’t have needs, I am here to serve, to make sure everyone’s lunch is packed, socks are clean (and match!), and on and on.  And it’s partly true; I do love to have clean matching socks for my sweet children as they head out the door with a balanced meal packed in their lunch boxes.

But it’s NOT true that I don’t have needs, or wants.  I really do.  And I recognize that when I give those wants a needs a moment, a breath, a sweet glimpse in the moment of my day, I am better for it.

Right now, I am training for the Hana Relay, a 54 mile relay run along the Northeast coast of Maui.  With a team of 6 women, we pass the baton along the coast, laughing as the ‘naked’ team runs along, followed by the ‘beauty queen’ team.  And at the end of it all, Hana.  Surrounded by beauty, the ocean, gentle passing showers, and a big house filled with incredible women, and three days of laughter, lounging, swimming and just being.

This is my want, my need.  And I am buoyed by knowing it is just around the corner…  It pulls me through my run in the park while my daughter is at piano, or squeezing in a run between teaching and the volunteer soccer coaches’ meeting.  It’s my carrot, hanging out there to draw me forward.

What is your want, your need?  What brings you to the surface?

It’s always with you, and yet…

When was the last time you took a breath?

Not the quick, get-ready-for-the-next-thing kind of breath,

but the slow, deep inhale,

Your shoulders drop

Your belly softens

You feel yourself washed over with relief- an actual chemical shift within your body-

that slows your racing heart,

sweetens the corners of your mind,

and gently uncurls the petals of your heart.

That’s my kind of breath.

Try it for yourself now, just for a moment, feel as if there is no to-do list, no one needing anything from you, nowhere you need to get to.

For this one moment, it’s just you and your breath, dancing together.

Appreciation for those who bring us JOY

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom” ~Marcel Proust

Who made you happy today? Who in the last week made you smile til your face hurt, laugh til your cried, or left you chuckling to yourself hours later?

Two incredibly simple(though not always easy) ways of being happier yourself are captured in this quote.

1) Being grateful is profound.  Turning your attention and awareness to what is wonderful and precious in your life right now can bring an incredible sense of joy and awe.

2) Being kind to someone else.  When we bring kindness into an interaction, we infuse ourselves and them with Joy.  The same goes for being willing to receive kindness.  Receiving allows the other person to enjoy the act of giving.   Both can be challenging for some people.  (Especially the receiving part if you are a busy mom entrepreneur who thinks she just needs to ‘get it done’.)

Bring these practices into your life today, and notice what happens to your joy-o-meter.